Law of Attraction

When we are steeped in ignorance we attract others who are steeped in ignorance.

We think “oh this person understands me, they are just like me, they are depressed like me”

You suffer in misery.

Commonality is just that: things in common.

We feel “this person knows me so well” because they have a, seemingly, common set of reference points.

It is not a “true” unchanging set of reference points.

If one is caught in the mental delusion that things are a certain way, that the “I” or self that they identify with is a certain way and that there is a “soul mate” that matches this certain way they feel; “oh, this person is my other half” (based on a false Platonic view of "soul mates") and fall into infatuation with an idea.

Unfortunately if these “commonalities” err towards the negative or unhealthy side of life “angry, extremely emotional, passive aggressive,” then you have a relationship recipe for disaster.

No thing is permanent, meaning that no thing is devoid of change.

We create a habit, intentional or unintentional, of liking a certain type of person and are doomed to repeat that habit until we recognize it as a habit and try to change it.

Thus we experience Samsara, cyclical existence, living “lives” over and over again in ignorance.

We attract what we attract because we “feel” our habits are “real” and existing, unchanging. Our feelings are not true. They are just programmed reactions. Some Buddhists would say “Lifetimes” of programming.

Meditate, contemplate, re-program if you desire a healthy relationship.

Amen.